What's The PointUpdated Monday October 12, 2009 by Babe Ruth Import.
If sports aren't fun, what's the point?
Take an interest in your league and find out how you can help out. Youth organizations like ours are solely based on volunteers to run the organization. A parent being involved in their kids' life is a good thing and taking on a small responsibility for the league is a great lesson to teach your child.
The more I'm around youth sports, the more I've come to believe that everyone believes that the volunteers that run the organizations have no jobs or other responsibilities to other children. I can give you a great example of how the system has changed and parents are sitting back waiting for everyone else to do the work. As a board member was checking up to make sure everything was going well on a field (Note: This person also had the responsibility to make sure all three fields where ready and the snack bar was all set to open) a mother yells out to this board member "why aren't you out on the field helping the coach get it ready?" Please remember, we all have children on the fields and that we all need to pitch in no matter how small the task can be and helping a coach before a game to prepare the field is a great way to get involved.
Coaches Are Not Always Idiots:
Talk to virtually any coach nowadays and the first thing they tell you is it's not the kids who are the problem, it's the parents. Parents with unrealistic expectations. Parents who complain that their kids don't play enough, aren't showcased enough, etc.
Parents who chip away at a coach's role. Rest assured, there are easier things nowadays than being a coach. And even if a particular coach is an idiot, so be it. Dealing with idiots is a fact of life, a lesson everyone should learn, kids included.
Specifically, we don't always work for people who think we are as (1) glamorous, (2) brilliant, or (3) charming as we think we are. The trick is to deal with it.
Coaches are in charge, pure and simple. They determine who plays. They determine how the team plays. They determine all of it. And sometimes it's not always fair. Then again, life is not always fair, another lesson kids should learn. Kids who understand this, and learn to make their own peace with it, are ultimately better off than those who continually hear from their parents that some coach is short-changing them, even if it might be true.
Maybe it's this simple: You're not the coach. So don't coach.
Have A Sense Of Reality:
What are you trying to get out of all this?
That's the question you should be asking yourself. If you're trying to get a college scholarship, you probably have a better chance buying lottery tickets. Truth be told, not too many kids get athletic scholarships, regardless of the sport.
That's just the way it is, and odds are you aren't going to change it. In other words, if getting a scholarship is the goal, you are only setting up both yourself and your child for disappointment and broken dreams.
It's infinitely more realistic to establish more achievable goals. Sports should be about being on a team, learning how to compete, learning how to deal with adversity. Sports should be about playing for the love of them.
Above all, sports should be about the present tense, an end in itself, not a means to an end.
It's All Right For Your Kid To Fail:
Somehow it's become un-American to fail.
We're never supposed to lose. Were always supposed to hear cheers, and win awards. Is it any wonder so many kids seem to have disappointing athletic careers?
One of the great over-looked facts of life is that every time someone wins someone else loses. This symbiotic relationship should constantly be stressed, this sense that winning and losing are two sides of the same coin.
The great lesson is we often learn more from failure than from succe